The Times of Our Lives..Writing When Your Heart is in a Vise
“ THERE IS A TIME TO LET THINGS HAPPEN AND A TIME TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.” Hugh Prather, Notes on Love and Courage.
“ ALL ART, LIKE ALL LOVE, IS ROOTED IN HEARTACHE.” Alfred Stieglitz
Having just come off a three- week period where time stood still, the hustle- bustle of this holiday season has felt like an electric shock to my system. Some of that actually has been good as there is comfort in getting back to my usual routine: work, going to the fitness center, finishing Christmas shopping & cards, squeezing in a piano lesson plus I really want to get back to my writing. The point is,no matter what life hands you, life truly does go on. I am experiencing the benefit of having some structure as I move on in my day to day life but how do I find the time? I love this post about writing with no excuses from the John Scalzi’s blog Whatever , ”Writing: Find the Time or Don’t” Here’s another post from Susan DiMikele’s blog A Working Mother’s Daily Rant about” Saying no so you can say yes to writing”. Where there is a will, there is a way.
I was going to devote this post to my reentry into normalcy after the loss of my sweet father on 11/27/10, on how I am moving along in time..
But then a writer friend of mine,Lynne Spreen (check out her awesome blog Any Shiny Thing) suggested I blog about ” writing when your heart is in a vise”. Because life happens at its own pace regardless of how fair or unfair it may seem, I am now faced with another heartache over which I have no control. I am also faced with the challenge of how to handle it in a way that will be keep me moving forward through time. Prayer is always my first line of defense and I have issued an “all points bulletin” prayer request for my loved one and myself . The prayers are flowing in and getting me through the moments of uncertainty.
Now all of this brings me to my writing mentors and friends, NAMW President and author, Linda Joy Myers,PhD and Writing coach and author, Sharon Lippincott who devote a lot of their time and energies to the healing power of journaling and writing. Among many other things, Linda Joy has a wonderful book ,The Power of Memoir: How to Write Your Healing Story and Sharon is currently teaching a course called Writing for the Health of It. I have immersed myself, like a sponge, soaking up in their teachings for the past thirteen months. It has always made sense but I didn’t realize until this moment of loss and personal crisis that the tools they have provided me are now guiding my path through the pain and heartache. Writing really does heal. I can feel it.
So in these times of my life, times we all will experience at one point or another, I am moving along and although “my heart is in a vise”, I am hopeful that the writing and the prayers, the structure and the discipline, the support and the friendships will keep me moving along the path of healing. The heartache is what it is. I have to let it happen. The writing to heal is what I can make happen. NO excuses.
Does writing heal the heartache for you?